DESMOND & TESSA
Young Lovers Desmond & Tessa have been together for more than two years and are anything but your typical couple. They don’t need to be all that romantic in order to feel good about their relationship, on the contrary, they prefer a bit of teasing and making fun of each other. Their relationship is an intense one, one that makes for “a perfect match”. What else do you need?
What do you do?
Desmond: On a regular day I wake up, go to the store to buy myself some breakfast and after that I just see what’s on my agenda for the day.
Tessa: I am at the Willem de Kooning academy almost every day, which is where I study visual arts.
How and where did you meet each other?
Both: We already followed each other on social media before we actually first met. One day we accidentally walked into each other in Amsterdam and discovered we also found each other really interesting outside of social media. We started dating shortly after.
‘I had never been in love before, but it felt so safe. I thought it would be really overwhelming, but it wasn’t like that at all.’
At what moment did you know you were in love?
Tessa: I didn’t fall madly in love at once; it kind of arose, step by step. I had never been in love before, but things felt so safe with Desmond. I thought it would be really overwhelming, but it wasn’t like that at all. I just felt really calm and incredibly happy.
Do you have a special place, or a place you call a “second home” where the two of you like to hang out and retreat to?Desmond: The fish-stand in Haarlem called ‘Balk Vis aan ‘t Spaarne’ really is our place to be, as we both love eating fish a hell of a lot.
Tessa: We feel like fish in the water when we are there…
How would you describe each other in four words?
Desmond: Annoying, sweet, energetic and soft.
Tessa: Mysterious, overthinking, sweet and caring.
Do you have pet names for each other? If so, we’d love to know them.
Tessa: We are both not your typical sweethearts that give each other cute and romantic nicknames. He would never call me ‘honey’ for example. I get shivers just thinking about the idea of these sorts of nicknames. At first I called him ‘Tuna’ or ‘Salmon’, but that developed into ‘Fish’. So that’s how I call him now.
What is the most annoying thing about your boy- or girlfriend?
Desmond: Tessa sometimes asks too much.
Tessa: He can be so mysterious sometimes that you just don’t understand him anymore.
Who is your partner’s Hollywood dream date?
Desmond: Louis Theroux
Tessa: Erykah Badu
‘An hour after she got accepted the doorbell rang and there was a big bouquet of flowers waiting for her.’
When was the last time you were extremely proud of your partner?
Tessa: There are a number of things that make me feel very proud. For example when I see how good he is with children, he is a real children’s friend. A few days ago I was also very proud of him when he released the new video of ‘Loudpack’. I saw that a lot of people responded on how much they liked it and on moments like that I feel so happy for him.
Desmond: When I heard she got accepted to the Willem de Kooning Academie. An hour after that, the doorbell rang and a big bouquet of flowers was delivered to her (by me).
Which character trait of the other are you jealous of?
Desmond: Her willpower; she is so strong and determined. When Tess says she’s going to draw all day long, she will literally be drawing the entire day. But when I say I am going to make beats the whole day, it will take two hours before I end up doing something else. So that is a trait of her that I really admire.
Tessa: His courage; he doesn’t back down easily. I have a light form of autism, so for me it is hard to see how other people feel or to show my own emotions. I always try very hard to do the best I can and to be ‘normal’, whatever that might be. But Des on the other hand couldn’t care less about what people think of him. That’s a thing that I really need to learn.
What would you do if you win the lottery tomorrow?
Desmond: Invest the money, in order to make more money out of it.
Tessa: I would go straight to the airport and buy a ticket to a destination that I feel like going to on that very moment.
Has your relationship changed you as people? In other words, do you think your partner has a (positive) effect on you? If so, can you elaborate on what specifically?
Tessa: Yes, since I am with Desmond I became a bit ‘tougher’, in a good way; I don’t let people walk all over me anymore.
What is your definition of love?
Both: That you mean the world to each other.
If you could go back in time and take your partner on a first date again, what would you do differently?
Desmond: The same as we did on our actual first date, only Tessa wouldn’t drop her cola all over me.