ANNE & BART
High school lovers Bart & Anne fell in love even though, initially it was kind of a forbidden love. Almost four years later, the sparks are still flying and they dream about growing old together and creating memories as a couple.
What do you do?
Bart: I study pop music at the Conservatory of Amsterdam. I also play in 2 bands: The Mighty Breaks & Indian Askin.
Anne: I work at Café de Koe, the Anne Frank House and for Karen’s husband Dennis.
How and where did you meet each other?
Anne: I know Bart from my high school. At first I was together with one of Bart’s best friends... so that is how I actually met him. However, I didn’t see him like a potential lover at the time. A year passed and I was single again when I saw Bart at a party. I was leaving early and bumped into him and his friends outside. We started talking and ended up cycling to my house where we ate some grilled cheese sandwiches and watched TV with his friends. I remember the moment Bart asked me to sit next to him, I knew we would end up kissing, which I did not see as a good idea back then because of his link to my ex-boyfriend. Before I knew it, I sat next to him and we started cuddling a bit. All our friends were leaving and my brother went to bed. When the last person left the house, we kissed. So that’s where it all started.
I always love telling this story, because when I do, I realise the odds were so little. I still can’t believe it sometimes. It was an absolute no-go to be together at the time, but now, more than 3,5 years later we are still going strong. And we are, gladly, both still very good befriended with my ex.
‘When I first kissed her, I fell madly in love… I hadn’t experienced anything like that before.’
At what moment did you know you were in love?
Bart: when I first kissed her… I hadn’t ever experienced anything like that before.
Anne: back then I was very frightened of being in love. So when Bart and I were together for not even a month, I already started doubting the whole thing. I didn’t know what to do, he was perfect but I was so scared and I didn’t know why. I told Bart about how I felt and he decided to just let me be. He didn’t contact me for a while so I could figure out what I wanted to do. I am so thankful for that as he made me realise that I didn’t have to be scared at all. Effectively him letting me be, was the moment I knew I really loved him.
How would you describe each other in four words?
Bart: reliable, sexy, stubborn and cute.
Anne: loving, beautiful, creative, and stable.
Do you have pet names for each other? If so, we’d love to know them.
Anne: I always call him Bartje, I think it’s sweet and he really is a Bartje.
What is the most annoying thing about your boy- or girlfriend?
Bart: she’ll take any chance she gets to squeeze pimples… Which can be so, so annoying.
What is your craziest, most hilarious memory of you as a couple?
Anne: this is such a hard question... I just really enjoy watching Bart letting go completely, as in crazy-dancing, singing-out-loud,… stuff like that. He normally doesn’t do that kind of things, but sometimes… Ah man, I just love that.
Which character trait of the other are you jealous of?
Bart: she literally couldn’t care less about what people think of her. I really admire that aspect of her. Not feeling the judgement of what other people think makes you feel a whole lot more free and confident.
Anne: his musicality, I wish I could make music like he does. When he plays or makes songs, he's not on this planet anymore: it’s just Bart and his music.
What would you do if you win the lottery tomorrow?
Bart: we want to make a road trip from the East to the West coast in the USA. Like one of those you see in a movie. Neither of us has a driver's license though, so maybe one of us should get that first…
Which Disney character would your partner be?
Bart: Tinkerbell, because she’s magical.
Anne: Peter Pan, he is youth- and playful, but very wise at the same time.
‘Being with him makes me feel vulnerable, but at the same time I feel like I can take on the world’
Has your relationship changed you as people? In other words, do you think your partner has a (positive) effect on you? If so, can you elaborate on what specifically?
Bart: Anne showed me how to be more confident and not to overthink things all the time.
Anne: yes, for sure, I am who and where I am because of him. I don’t really have the words to explain how Bart changed me, but he changed me in so many ways. Being with him makes me feel vulnerable, but at the same time I feel like I can take on the world.
What is your definition of love?
Bart: being lovers and best friends at the same time.
Anne: accepting each other 100% for who you are, letting each other be, but knowing you will be together forever. Love without boundaries and growing old together. And then, when you are old: still doing the same crazy stuff together.
If you could go back in time and take your partner on a first date again, what would you do differently?
Bart: I would go out with the two of us and get drunk. Because when you’re drunk, you’re as honest as you will ever be, so it’s a good way of finding out if you like your date.
Anne: I would have done something more exciting than watching a movie. It would be fun to go bowling, just because it’s so cliché and kind of lame, but also super funny and nice at the same time.
Do you have a favourite song together? If so, what is it?
Bart: I never seem to have a favourite song, not even with her. We listen to a lot of music though. It’s the greatest thing humans have ever done.
Anne: no we don't, because of Bart being a musician I hear so many different kinds of music and songs, I couldn't name one. He is my walking music library.